When Does It Get Easier?

I was that new mom once, just like you. I would drag my weary body out of the bed I didn't get any sleep in and throw on my "nice" pair of yoga pants. I would try my best to juggle the new role as mother every moment of my being, and I would fail as much as I would succeed.

I know you're overwhelmed, and nothing is like it used to be.

And this is when you ask yourself, and every mom friend that you have, "When does it get easier?"

If you're like me, you never really get the answer that you're hoping for. We're all hope for a specific timeline of when our lives will resemble some form of normalcy. But the overwhelming majority answer our question with, "it doesn't."

Nothing could be more discouraging in the midst of your sleepless stupor, while those postpartum hormones are crashing.

Being a parent isn't easy, I'm afraid to say. But I want you to know that it DOES get easier, just not in the way you might think.

One day soon, these nasty postpartum hormones won't have you crying at the drop of a hat, and it starts to get easier.

One day, you'll realize that taking you're adorable addition to the grocery store alone isn't so scary anymore. You'll know what to do if they start to cry, and the diaper bag will be packed and prepared for anything.

One day, you'll be planning a day trip without anxiety about how the little one will act. Instead you'll be excited to see their reaction to your adventure together, and you'll know to take the little meltdowns in stride.

One day, and it's sooner than you could imagine right now, you're baby will sleep through the night. You'll have time to yourself in the evening and not even know what to do, and it will get easier.

One day, you'll have an intelligent little person to walk beside you, to have a conversation with, and you'll have the privilege of knowing what all your hard work accomplished. 

In the meantime, just know that it's okay to feel this way. It's okay to not have the answers right now, and it's okay to mourn your pre-baby life, no matter how badly you wanted this baby.

It doesn't make you a bad mother to cry. 

But at the end of the day, just remember that it DOES get easier.